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Unrequited Love Series: Situationships

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Hi and welcome back to Lollys Secrets! I spoke about this series on Instagram and I promised you that I would come out with the next part after the Part 1- Best Friends post but I’ve been busy being loved up. I’m ready to dive in now! In this next part of the unrequited love series we are going to talk about Situationships. Sigh!...I’m someone that has a very long memory. When I recall a situation, I can feel everything I felt all over again like its happening right now! I think that's why I have struggled to forgive in the past. Work in progress!!! But I digress… What is a Situationship? I think we first need to understand what a situationship means so that you can fully understand the pain in this. The urban dictionary describes it as “A relationship that has no label on it.. like a friendship but more than a friendship but not quite a relationship” . It further gives a scenario: Me: Me and this guy have been talking for six months now. Friend: Are you guys together? Me: Its li

How To Survive A Heat Wave At Home

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I cannot remember the last time I had to deal with such a weather. I've lived in one of the tropical countries Indonesia for years, yet I have never got to survive in the extreme temperatures like this. My parents' home there has three air conditioners, where in Germany almost no one has even one. The fact that there are only  heaters in every household due to the cooler climate is  really difficult to deal with at first and to be honest I was not prepared at all. Haha! (but It's better though because the winter over here can be brutal sometimes). The last three days were so challenging to me due to heat wave, so I decided to do something a.k.a research the best ways how to cope in very hot weather. I want to share some tricks you can try at home and I hope they can be helpful for at least some of you!   Take a shower with lukewarm water before going to bed. It is no secret that a shower before bed helps you to fall asleep. But you definitely do not want to take a hot showe

Relationship Secrets Series: How to Stay Madly in love with your Spouse Cont...

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Hi and welcome back to Lolly's Secrets! This week  I am following up with the second part in this series and talking about relationships and advice on how to stay madly in love with your boyfriend, life partner, lover, best friend, spouse or husband.  Wait!!If you haven't read the first part of this series, then I suggest you do here and come back to read the rest. Remember! This relationship love advice is actually applicable if you are a man or woman and also to any important relationship in your life.  so lets continue! Sincerity Truth and Trust Growing up my mom always said “when you lie, you steal and when you steal, you kill”. I know!!! Melodramatic much right? But I get it.  Basically what she meant was that when you open the door to one thing, it reduces your resolve against the next barrier. All of a sudden, that barrier doesn’t seem like such a big deal anymore.  It won’t take long for you to cross that one too, then another and another and then you find yourself far

Summer road-tripping and keeping your car happy

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Photo credit: Pixabay Well, this heatwave is getting a little excessive isn’t it?! I’ve honestly never known such consistently hot weather and I’m the first to admit that I wasn’t emotionally prepared for this weather. In between complaining that I’m too hot and trying to sleep through the noise of the cheap desk fan I panic bought from Argos, I’ve actually tried to embrace the weather a little by making some summer plans. A few months ago, I brought my precious Polly (aka my Hyundai i10) over to Leeds and I must admit, having my car over here gives me a new found freedom. I mean, for the first time in nearly 4 years, I’ve been able to go to a supermarket for a weekly shop – I know how to live life on the edge. I’m quite lucky in that I have a space in the carpark underneath my building as whilst I pay over the odds for it, I don’t run the risk of her getting her windows smashed (which happened the last time I parked her out on the street here, still fuming). Car maintenance is just as

Relationship Secrets Series: How to Stay Madly in love with your Spouse

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Hi and welcome back to Lolly's Secrets! What a week! This week I will be talking about relationships and advice on how to stay madly in love with your boyfriend, life partner, lover, best friend, spouse or husband. The list goes on! This relationship love advice is actually applicable if you are a woman or a man and also to any important relationship in your life. Personally, I can only apply all the points we will cover, if not majority of them, to maximum 3 people in my life. I’d rather perfect it with the top three people in my life than try to be mediocre with everyone, including my husband. Currently I am focusing this strategy on only my husband and I plan to extend this to my child or children when that time comes. If you don't already know by now, I am married to the love of my life, let’s call him Jay. Jay is everything I ever wanted in a man but is also very different from what i imagined. I think I might do another post on how I prepared for marriage. I met Jay in J